W. E. Sikes was my college math teacher in 1957. He is known for writing clever sayings on the chalkboard at the beginning of each class. We eagerly watched as he wrote his next truism, one of which struck me so deeply that it has stayed with me for sixty nine years. It was, “Some people suffer from ‘I’ strain.”
That play on words by a teacher describes a human trait called narcissism.
Mr. Sikes’ catchphrase has often come to my mind when someone has that ‘I’ attitude.
Of course, we want others to like us and respect our opinions. But problems can arise when that desire becomes so excessive that it causes dangerous and bizarre behaviors.
My studies over a lengthy period indicate consistent traits of a serious character flaw known as Grandiose Narcissism in some people. We recognize it when an individual exhibits this behavior in its most extreme form. Numerous professional journals, such as “Very Well Mind,” describe this attitude (www. verywellmind.com/what-is-grandiose- narcissism-7112083).
What are examples of this psychological trait in someone? Firstly, a noticeable behavior is arrogance. This type of person is self-centered and expects the world to revolve around him or her.
Next, a narcissistic person constantly craves and demands attention and admiration.
Additionally, this type of individual unashamedly criticizes and ridicules others.
A narcissistic person outwardly shows self-confidence, but that masks a deep insecurity. Reacting defensively and seeking revenge for threats to their image are typical responses.
Expecting special treatment and privileges is another defining trait of someone who fits the pattern of grandiose narcissism.
Anyone with this personality has an inflated ego and sees himself as superior, special, and unique, often boasting and lying about achievements. This attitude leads a narcissist to rely on intuition for decision- making rather than trusting reliable sources.
Lastly, a person with grandiose narcissism is obsessed with power, status, wealth, and control.
For these reasons, gaslighting and promoting chaos typically are features of anyone who possesses a personality defined by these negative traits. This presents problems for personal relationships, but it’s infinitely worse when that individual has great power and authority. It then becomes a national liability.
You may notice that I mentioned no person by name who exhibits these objectional traits. In my view, it is the responsibility of each one of us to put political leaders to the test and determine if they fit the definition of grandiose narcissism.
If one meets the description, we need to know it because we all pay the price for the damage to our nation caused by irrational decisions. Only then can we be well informed and vote appropriately.